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The Top 3 Reasons We Fall in Love

Hani Henry, who is chair and associate professor of Psychology in the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology of the AUC, believes that Robert Sternberg's psychological theory explains why people fall in love, and they are in fact the most common reasons, which are intimacy, passion, and commitment.


It is possible to fall in love for intimate reasons, but it does not require commitment or passion. "Besides developing a close connection with someone, a lot of people seek intimacy for self-enhancement; it doesn't necessarily have to be for sex," said Henry. "Sometimes it can be self-serving. Everyone needs to feel loved, cared for, and respected. Women desire to feel their femininity and men desire to feel their masculinity.

Intimacy is captured perfectly in Adele's Hello song. Adele, in the chorus of the song, calls her ex-boyfriend to vent her grief about their relationship. She admits that it has been many years since she last saw her ex-boyfriend and that she has not done any healing. He said that her lyrics were magical and could be used by anyone who wants to feel a connection with someone or have a long-term relationship.


Letting ourselves fall in love because of desire or strong feelings for a person is normal. Passionate love is developed as a result of feelings that lead to sexual attraction, physical interest and romance. Henry said, "When you find someone you like, it is because you are attracted by something that makes you feel that way." "The attraction is not just physical. There is also a fascination for the hair, eyes, body."

Infatuation is a feeling of love that develops without intimacy or commitment. People feel attracted and soon develop lust. Some people view a person as an object and become obsessed. He stated that it is possible to be together for years with someone and not feel a commonality.


Commitment is complete love. "People who want commitment are seeking stability and a healthy partnership," he stated. "If people only seek commitment, they may lack sexual attraction and basic friendship interests."

Henry said that in modern times young adults are more interested than ever in objects and relationships. attitude status explained, "The objectification results from consumerism." "The more consumerism a culture becomes the more people lose interest and commitments. Some youth are more interested in impressing people they don't care about. So everything needs to be consumed, even relationships with people."

Love Outside of the Triangular Theory

Sternberg's love theory is universally applicable. However, everyone has their own reasons for falling in love. "Your reason for falling in love doesn't necessarily need to be explained by science. Henry explained that certain personal needs may include fear of being alone, social pressure, satisfaction, or religious beliefs.

Despite what psychology has to say about love, the type of love we choose defines who we are. We have our own way of understanding what makes us happy and fulfills our human needs. "Some people have a need that fulfills all three dimensions of the triangle, and they don't want to give up on any of them because they feel they are being deprived of another dimension. Love is complex.

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